"Hi Kristy, I'm a blogger and I'm in need of some advice. I've been writing my blog for a while but I feel like I'm out of my depth. All these other blogs have hundreds of thousands of comments, facebook likes, twitter followers and it seems like everyone loves them, but no matter how hard I try my blog never does the same.
I spend hours writing posts, taking pictures, writing recipes, following other bloggers and trying to interact with them but it seems like they don't even know me. I love your blog and read every day and you seem so down to earth and I thought you could help me.
How are you so confident about your blog?"
Edited to take out her name and details
Now, I want to stop right there. One thing I think all bloggers need to realise is that your blog is not about comments or followers or likes. If that's the reason you write a blog - no one's going to read it. Sure, the comments and people you meet through your blog are an incredible part of blogging - but that's not all.
Is there any blogger that's 100% confident about what they do on their blog 24/7? I don't think so - we're all human - we have those doubts and insecurities about ourselves and what we do.
Something else I think is important to note that this lovely reader emailed me saying I love your blog and read every day - but I have never received a comment from her or heard from her before. This isn't nasty whatsoever, what I'm trying to show you is that - whilst you may not receive many comments on your blog, that says nothing for who is reading your blog.
The most important thing for me in writing Southern In-Law is that I can share my passions and the things I love most in life. Sure, I love getting comments/emails/messages/tweets from you guys, but I know that sometimes you just don't have the time - and neither do I! I often read blog posts and don't get a chance to leave a comment - but that doesn't mean I don't enjoy the post any less.
Bloggers reading Southern In-Law, now's the time to stop the comparison game. I write Southern In-Law - and you write your blog - we're too different people, so just as our hair doesn't part the same and we may have different interests - our blogs are different too.
Blogging has allowed me to meet some of the most incredible people - blogging friends that have become true friends - and it has enabled me to have some amazing experiences. The reason why I blog is not for the "blogger fame" or to have hundreds of thousands of comments - it's because I'm doing something I genuinely enjoy.
I know there are lots of you that will read this post and not leave a comment - but that's okay. The ones who take the time to leave a comment fill my heart with joy and I genuinely appreciate those comments - but I also appreciate anyone who takes the time to read Southern In-Law and my
So let's change how we think. Blogging isn't about comments, followers, likes or statistics - it should be about sharing something you genuinely love. Those things are just the bonus - but remember, not everyone likes to comment.
So tell me, are you a blogger? Do you have these insecurities?
If you're a reader, tell me - what do you like to see in a blog?
And one last thing - thank you, for reading this :)